Tuesday, November 27, 2012

The Remedy For My Perfectionism

This post is a continuation of a series.  Here are links to the previous posts:
                        How Do I Measure Up As A Christian Mother?
                        The Slippery Slope of Perfectionism
                        The Source of My Perfectionism

So what is the answer?  How can I remedy this negative pattern of perfectionism and discouragement?  How can I stand up under this assault and not be overcome?

The answer is printed plainly in God's Word.   Ephesians 6:16 says to "take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming darts of the evil one."  At the core of my perfectionism is a lack of faith in God.  Satan sees this weakness and exploits it, attacking my efforts to disciple my children. 

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With greater faith, I can overcome perfectionism and discouragement.  To strengthen my shield of faith, I started reading scriptures about trusting God.  What I found time and again is that faith in God is linked to rejoicing (the very opposite of the despair I feel from the burden of perfectionism).  Let me share some of my favorite examples:

   But let all who take refuge in You be glad,
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   Let them ever sing for joy;
   And may You shelter them,
   That those who love Your name may exult in You. 
          -Psalm 5:11

  But I have trusted in Your lovingkindness;
  My heart shall rejoice in Your salvation. 
          -Psalm 13:5

  The Lord is my strength and my shield;
     my heart trusts in him, and he helps me.
  My heart leaps for joy,
     and with my song I praise him. 
          -Psalm 28:7

  For You have been my help,
  And in the shadow of Your wings I sing for joy. 
          -Psalm 63:7

   The righteous man will be glad in the Lord and will take refuge in Him;
   And all the upright in heart will glory. 
         -Psalm 64:10

In his book Transforming Children Into Spiritual Champions, George Barna states, "In the end, one of  the greatest lessons you can learn is that raising spiritual champions is beyond your capabilities--but not beyond your personal responsibility."  God doesn't expect perfection from us.  Instead, He requires that we avoid the trap of discouragement and passivity.  It is our duty to guide our children's development of faith. If we follow Him, He fills in where we lack.  The process of spiritual training takes steadfast effort.  May God bless every minute we spend and every ounce of energy that we devote to leading our children closer to Him.

To conclude this series, my next post will dig deeper into the Bible to explore The Depth Of God's Love For My Children

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  1. Thanks Stacey. When I made my comment earlier today on an earlier post I didn't realize that you had written another two on this subject. Trusting in God, for His strength to keep doing even in the face of disappointment and trusting in His grace to fill in the gaps was encouraging to me. Lately, I've let my shortcomings be a discouragement and given in for fear about what it will mean for my children. However a still small voice beckons me back to trust and to seeing the growth we have had, the victories He has already given. Without his mercy we are lost along the way and it's easy to give up and give in. His mercies are new every morning and He promises to work mightily in our weakness if only we take the consistent steps back to Him and His blueprint for life when the inevitable bumps, wrong turns, and stuck in the mud times hit. Thanks again for this encouraging series of posts and I look forward to the final one.

  2. I'm glad this series has been encouraging to you. I am trying to live with eucharisto and joy, and I believe that the trust (the true rock solid trust) will come. There is a strong tie between these in the Bible. I love what you say about that "still small voice beckoning" you to dwell on the positives. It's so easy for that voice to be drowned out by the roar of our shortcomings unless we truly focus on it. Yes, His mercies are new every morning. What an uplifting truth that is!

  3. You've given me a little idea...hopefully I'll show you both later...our cups runneth over :)